One of the ways your relationship will not add to the rate of heartbreak in our world today is for you to date your mate and if you are dating already, make your spouse your mate! You see that statement of ‘ Am I your mate?’ does not apply in a relationship . You must date your mate. I will like to talk on seven dimensions you and the person you want to date or you have been dating must be mate.[b]1. DATE_YOUR_SPEAKING_MATE[/b]
Date someone you can speak together and understand each other. Communication is very crucial in a relationship . Don’t date someone that, when you are saying ‘A’ he or she will be saying ‘ Z’ Once there is dichotomy in your speaking and understanding level, you can’t enjoy that relationship . So many guys go out to have a good time and chat with friends without their supposed dates because they know their dates can’t engage in any meaningful intellectual discussion. So many ladies too prefer to hang out with their friends, because they know their men mentality when it comes to vital issues and discussions is very low. Date your speaking Mate.
By this I mean, date someone you can learn together and improve together. Don’t date ‘ Mr Know all’ or ‘Miss Know all’. Don’t date someone who is rigid and not open to new ideas, new ways of doing things, or new innovations. Dating is a grassroots process . From day one till death do you part, you will keep learning. Date your ‘school’ mate; someone who is ready to learn with you.[b]3.DATE_YOUR_SPIRITUAL_MATE[/b]
Dating is not just a social union. It is also a spiritual union. Date someone who knows the same God you know. Don’t date someone who’s believe of God is different from yours. Two can’t work together except they be agreed ( Amos 3:3, Joshua 23: 11-15, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). The spiritual controls the physical, even in dating. Check for spiritual compatibility in that person you want to date.
Don’t date someone who is stingy. There are so many expenses to cater for in dating. A stingy guy in courtship won’t suddenly become a generous husband in the future. Don’t date a lady that has the financial philosophy of ‘ My boyfriend’s money is our money, but my money is my money’. Date someone who believes in dignity of labour , who is ready to work, not a lazy fellow who just want to be a consumer and not a contributor. Date someone who is ready to spend and be spent for the growth and success of the relationship.[b]5. DATE_YOUR_SEX_MATE[/b]
Date someone you have sexual feelings for. Sexual feeling is not a sin. It is an instinct God put in every person. Sex plays a major role in the success of any relationship . Any man you don’t have emotional feelings for, don’t date the person. If you don’t have emotional feelings for that lady, leave her alone. A spiritual being is also a sexual being. No matter how spiritual you both may be in your relationship, you won’t be praying for 24 hours in a day. You won’t be reading the Bible or worshiping God 24/7. You will have sex! You will romance! You will flirt with each other! You will make babies. So, marry someone you can connect with sexually. It will help you to enjoy your relationship so much![b]6. DATE_YOUR_SOCIAL_MATE[/b]
Don’t date someone you won’t be proud to go out with. Don’t date someone you will be feeling shy to introduce to people with boldness. Date someone you are comfortable to hang out with. Date someone you are socially compatible with. Don’t date an anti- social person.
You might be wondering if you can find all the ‘mates’ in one person. Yes! The answer is YES! You don’t need to date 6 guys/ladies to have all these mates. One person can be all that for you. If you also work on yourself and build your life, you can be all that for the guy/lady that will date you. The promise of God for you is this : ‘Seek and read from the book of the LORD: Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the LORD has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them.’ (Isaiah 34:16). Say it loud and clear ‘ I shall not lack a mate!’ I hope this blessed someone reading?